11 Cold Hard Facts of hooking up
Hooking up with women is hard I will not deny that. One of the obvious reasons is that you are at a disadvantage, it is much easier to be the receive of attention then the giver. This is something that I believe most everyone knows, and gets the proper amount of attention in mixed company but there are many cold hard facts that simply go ignored. As a man if you can accept these facts it will greatly improve your percentage. This is where you will build the foundation of you game. Understand that you must accept these even if you don’t completely agree. This is important because all of these facts are going to come into play when you are trying to hook up with women. Let’s look a little closer
Fact number 1 The ugliest girl you know has been hit on more than the most popular guy you know. This fact simply demonstrates the dynamic in gender relationships. Men typically approach women it is rare that women approach men and the ones that do are typically on the homely side to be generous. In my lifetime I would probably say I have been approached by about 50 women of those 50 only about 5 were what we would consider universally attractive. Contraly I would say that I have approached at least 10,000 women in my lifetime and that is on the low side.
Fact number 2 The best ladies man in the world is only going to hook up 4 out of 10 times. This fact will help you overcome the innate fear of rejection. I can honestly say that I currently have no fear of rejection, but I once did. All people have a fear rejection no one likes to be turned down. However hooking up is kind of like baseball and if you are batting around 300 you doing fine. This is a good way to both hone your skills and keep your mind from focusing on rejection.
Fact 3 Relationships for women are equivalent to sports to menThis fact brings perspective to the situation women spend countless hours discussing relationships and ways to improve them. Men rarely spend that time, so it is unreasonable to believe that you are going to understand gender relationships the way they do. There is an interesting study that says that men are depressed about breaks up twice as long as women are. Now why is that? It is because women typically have other women to lean on in a situation like that. Men rarely do and are forced to go through these times alone. This is not going to change any time soon so it is best to use times like that to build character.
Fact 4 It is much harder to be a woman then a man This fact is something that I have debated and discussed at length with many different people The reality of it is that it is hard to be a man but it is much much more difficult to be a woman. Want proof go into a bar and go up to the first guy you see look him dead in the eye and say your are a real female sir. Chances are your better be prepared to throw done. Woman have it very difficult in this world besides the obvious physical disadvantage they are constantly being judged by society and many times are forced to live up to standards that are nearly impossible. Think about this the next time you are about to criticize a women for being overly emotional. Accepting this fact is key in understanding the female mind.
Fact 5 It is easier to attract women if you around woman. Fact 5 is my gem gems. I will now give you one of the best tips in the world for having sex with a girl that might put you in the friend zone. So you have met Julie somehow either through mutual friends or maybe she is in one of your classes at school. You finally get up the nerve to ask her out and she says “yea me and my friends are going to the local bar tonight you should come” Without breaking stride agree and sound overly enthusiastic. Understand that if you ask a woman out and she invites you our with your friend she is looking at you as a friend. (While many people believe that they can’t get out of the friend zone I am an expert at exploiting and benefiting from the friend zone) Now this is very important before you go to met her contact any girl friend that you have, and hopefully you have built up a few “friends” yourself and will have them available if not contact your sister and see if her and her friends would like to go with you essentially find any girl or small group of girls to go with you. If you can’t then don’t show up. I repeat do not show up. If you have her number wait exactly 48 hours from the time you were scheduled to meet and call her. She most likely will call you once if you flake out just to see where you are, but don’t answer and make sure to wait to call her back. When you do call her she is going to want to know what happened to you. This is your chance to be heroic, tell her you were rescuing a cat tell her you had to rush your grandma to the hospital whatever you do make sure you tell her something that she can’t prove. Doing this will provide you with new conversation and she will now look at you in a totally different light. If you do show up with another girl it will completely confuse her and make her insecure no matter what she thought of you before she will now be forced to try to vie for her affection. In case you were wondering the sister thing is not a bad idea either if you are from a tight nit family your relationship with your sister will be one of a
protector. The girl who invited you out will naturally want to talk to her simply because most guys don’t bring their sister out on what they think is a date.
Fact 6 Celebrities, Musicians athletes entertainers, Wealthy execs and other people of power are in a different category then the average man This fact Should be common Money is power and power is king. Those guys are in different ballgame because of our societal values.
Fact 7 If you can get 1 interrupted hour to speak with any woman in the world over dinner you will be able to get her I actually have gone back and forth with this fact until this happened to me. One night I was out in Hollywood with some friends and I saw these two girls walking in front of us. Both of them seemed to be cute, but what I really noticed was that they had nice asses. I walked up to them and introduced myself to the one that I thought was the hottest. She responded in kind with her name, instantly when she did this her friend jumped in between us and started cock blocking. I didn’t want to waste my time so I moved on. The next day when I went around the store to get coffee I saw the exact same girl in the coffee shop only this time she was alone. It took me exactly 3 hours to get her number go back to her place and have sex. The morale of this story is that many times when you see women cock blocking against you learn to take it as a complement, because what they are really saying is that if she does talk to you, she is helpless against your game and intellect.
Fact 8 If momma ain’t happy nobody happy. To understand Fact 8 you must recognize that women want you to be happy only if it is on their own terms. This is a cold fact and you won’t find anyone ready to admit this but the fact is that women can care less if you are happy, they won’t you to be happy but it must coincide with their happiness. This is very difficult to maintain and one of the reasons I am highly skeptical about marriage. If you happen to be in a relationship and the act of a women giving you head in the morning and at night, is the only thing you need to make you happy enough to provide her with whatever she wants
many times she will object and point to that one thing as the reason why she is not happy. Consequently the average man sacrifices all the time to be with what he thinks is the woman of his dreams. He will put up with being bossed around and essentially living a miserable existence as long as he can keep his hot girl on his arm. There is a great scene in 2 and a half men when the guy finds out his “hot” wife is sleeping with Charlie and his brother. He says I rather share her with you two then have a relationship with my box of porn. The point of this is if you woman is always happy you must continue to question the reasons why. The second you realize her happiness is at the expense of yours you must move on.
Fact 9 If a woman is no longer interested in you, you have lost absolutely nothing. My brother told me this recently and it changed my whole perspective. What exactly is a relationship from the male point of view. If you are a decent guy and a gentlemen you probably spend a good amount of money on a women making sure she looks good and overall providing for her to make sure she at the very least has the basics taken care off. Many times you drive you, pick up the check or bill. So if that women decides to leave you what is it exactly that were loosing. The only answer you could give is sex and because this blog is designed to help improve your prospects this should seem like less of a loss.
Fact 10 Rejection helps improve self esteem I debated whether this was a fact or not before deciding that it has to go in here. There is nothing better to me than being shot down by a beautiful woman. I think that it is the best thing for anyone. I play poker in Vegas and many times you have to make strong moves to win. Sometimes they backfire and you end up loosing and going broke, but each time you make those moves you confidence grows stronger and stronger and you become more fearless making you more dangerous. I believe rejection has the same effect.
Fact 11 A women knows if she is going to sleep with you the minute she meets you. This is the one fact that is constantly disputed. But fuck it sense this is my Blog I’m putting it in here. Many Women will tell you that this is a ludicrous statement and it takes time to decide whether or not they will sleep with a guy. I’m here to tell you that bull. The act might take some time but a woman knows right away, that doesn’t mean that she necessarily will sleep with you right away but she knows. Usually the first thing she does is gives you a chance to hang yourself and say something stupid. From their it is a matter of how their values work and how your dialogue fits with their values. Remember just cause she knows doesn’t mean she will.
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